If you are reading this, chances are you feel life is unfair. You feel like you are the only one struggling and that you cannot make it to another day because you have too many problems.
And it’s absolutely right to feel this way.
Fuck everyone who tells you they understand. It’s just their way to feel better about themselves.
Buddhism says, “Suffering is universal,” and there’s no way out of it than to suffer.
As a society, we sometimes trivialize what we are going through because others have it worse. With the rising intolerance amongst us, we often forget that ignoring our problems is just numbing them for a while until they come back as tremendous heartaches.
Mumma tells me life is fair because it is unfair to everybody.
ACCEPT. Acceptance is the first step for any suffering. Accept that you suck at something. That you are no longer a part in someone’s life. People cannot always love you in the same way you love them. That breakup. The death of your loved one. The moments that are gone.
ACCEPTANCE is the thing we find hard to do because how can you believe something you believed your whole life in? That person, that moment, that love that is no longer there?
GRIEVE. Cry. Cry so much that you become numb to feel things. Feel the loss. Feel the pain. Feel it within your bones and every cell of your body. We find it so hard to deal with whatever we go through. We go through emotions as balloons.
LET GO. Letting go is like throwing a T-shirt that no longer fits you, but you save it because you know someday you will be fitter, leaner and be the old you. With the ever-changing seasons and ever-changing decisions, you don’t need need to be the old you. Everything that made you this way was supposed to happen.
You cannot escape it as much as it hurts, so why not let it be? Go through it and live with the broken deformed parts forever. Maybe someday you won’t be waiting for someone to come back, perhaps eventually you will be happy.
Time to heal.
Time to grieve.
Time to let go.
Time to fly.
